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Steve Fleischer's avatar

DeBoer is absolutely right about the bitterness.

But life is full of disappointments.

Heraclitus said: “Out of every one-hundred men, ten shouldn’t even be there, eighty are just targets, nine are the real fighters, and we are lucky to have them, for they make the battle. Ah, but the one, one is a warrior and he will bring the others back.”

We all think that we are that warrior.

As we get older, we realize that only occasionally do most of rise to the level of fighter.

Mostly, we pass our lives as targets.

Happiness consists of trying our best, living good (moral) lives, and enjoying what we have.

The bitterness comes from not accepting that we aren't the warrior, that we aren't lucky (in this endeavor), or that we didn't work hard enough.

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John Carter's avatar

I don't think I've ever known a writer, whether personally or not, who had anything like a conventional or normal path to success. The one common element seems to be the willingness to work hard. Writing is extremely difficult work, after all. Writers who make it tend to be writers who write, and publish, a lot - the ones who spend a decade working on their special novel without ever finishing it tend to go nowhere.

Related to this, the day job - or better yet, a series of them - isn't just economic fallback. It provides human experience, essential to good writing.

One thing I really appreciated here was your discussion of your readiness to deposit half a novel's worth of prose in the circular filing cabinet. Assuming 2000 words a day, five days a week, that's a month's work, if you're an extremely fast writer. Having the willingness to critically assess all of that work, find it wanting, and discard it, is crucial - a writer must also be their own most critical editor, which means regarding their own work with a certain ruthless detachment from the emotional investment they'll inevitably have with it (to say nothing of the inherent reluctance to go back to square one after putting in so much time walking down the wrong path).

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