When scriptwriter Gareth Roberts was 14, he called the helpline promoted by a new organisation, one dedicated to working with gay and lesbian youth. The operator tried to set him up on a date with a 19-year-old. Fortunately, Young Roberts had the wit to realise this ‘was a very bad idea’.
A related outfit opened the first—and, at the time, only—gay youth club in the country. Roberts joined, only to discover meeting rooms and communal areas littered with literature from PIE. That, for readers who aren’t gay or lesbian and of a certain vintage, stands for ‘Paedophile Information Exchange’.
What you need to understand—as Roberts argues in his first book, Gay Shame: The Rise of Gender Ideology and the New Homophobia—is ‘that there was a prominent streak of gay activism that was absolutely insane’. And, despite major successes borne of both a mature response to the AIDS crisis and opposition to Section 28, the bonkers quality never went away. That said, he admits he didn’t expect ‘the gay rights movement transmogrifying into a cross between the Church of Scientology, Heathers: the Musical and Act 4 of The Crucible’.
In Gay Shame, Roberts does two things. First, he explains how and why trans activism and the ‘official’ gay rights movement now (bitterly) divides gays and lesbians. It’s impossible not to notice the extent to which fights over trans often involve two opposed teams of homosexuals: see Stonewall v. LGB Alliance, litigation and all. Roberts is a gay man and directs ordnance (for the most part) at gay men while also backgrounding this division in an intelligent way. However, when feminist and lesbian adherents of the religion he calls ‘genderism’ cross his radar, they cop a similarly witty serve.
Secondly—and in a way that tracks the careful evidence-gathering of the Cass Review—he conveys the extent to which transgenderism represents transing the gay away. Most of the children who went through the Tavistock—nine thousand of them in all according to Cass—were same-sex attracted or simply (and this is heart-breaking, because it discloses their ages) gender-nonconforming. Rising numbers, year-on-year, of glittery, swishy little boys and even more sporty but quirky little girls.
‘This is an ideology,’ Roberts points out in a coruscating passage, ‘that says there is something wrong with camp little boys and butch little girls and that they need to be fixed’.
This is impressive despite its grimness. Gay Shame only came out last Thursday, and—due to typical lead-times in publishing—was written in 2023. Despite a stint as a writer for Dr Who, Roberts didn’t nick the Tardis and get early access to her report. This care and thought has the effect of forcing readers—both heterosexual and homosexual—to think about how we respond to gender-non-conforming behaviour.
Most people do not understand what it’s like to be gender-non-conforming or appreciate the extent to which gender-non-conforming people stick out like sore thumbs. Gays, lesbians, and bisexuals won social acceptance before everyone else™ properly ‘got’ us.
Roberts’s hands must be a mess, because he grasps every bloody nettle on the gay male side of the equation: from the extent to which gay male sexuality is utterly unlike straight male sexuality (because it does not involve women) to taking aim at a string of overpraised, low-quality gay male contributions to popular culture.
Does that mean every gay man on the planet bangs like a dunny door in a gale and adores Eurovision? No, of course not, but there are also no lesbian chemsex parties and heterosexuals really don’t have to pretend Eurovision is bloody marvellous. Meanwhile, if a straight man wanted some sort of chemsex equivalent, it would involve handing over a lot of cash to a group of women he doesn’t know in icky bits of London he would prefer not to frequent.
This absence of theory of mind—common but not universal when dealing with people unlike oneself—has implications. In a discussion of what he concedes is ‘a small minority of gay men,’ Roberts observes how ‘the Metropolitan Police’s shockingly inept handling of the case of the serial rapist and murderer Stephen Port in London in 2014/15 was partly down to their assumptions about the chemsex deaths of gay men’.
Of value is Roberts’ account of what he calls ‘the fall of Stonewall’, which was, in retrospect, astonishingly swift. ‘You can literally narrow it down to about three weeks in late 2014,’ he told me last week. He documents the extent to which Stonewall’s pivot to trans arose in part because it fell for queer theory wibble (‘peer review is the process by which academics mark each other’s homework,’ he observes, tartly) and partly because it had won.
‘What was Stonewall for?’ Roberts asks. ‘It had no active political campaigns left to fight in the UK. But it had a huge staff, and a massive engine room of fundraising and campaigning machinery. A tender full of coal and no track’.
One effect of Stonewall’s pivot to trans—and later persecution, along with Mermaids, of the LGB Alliance—was that the latter organisation spent years fighting off attacks on its charitable status, unable to do much else. Only recently has it been able to work normally, ‘doing,’ as Roberts says, ‘exactly the same work as Stonewall did before its fall to genderism’.
Gay Shame raises all sorts of difficult questions. It’s really striking, for example, what a recurrent feature the sexualising of children is within allegedly ‘liberatory’ streams of thought. This manifests in something Roberts calls ‘The Leap’. The Leap consists of the belief that ‘people (including, incredibly, children) are always what they claim to be, rather than what they are’.
Roberts’ discussion of gay men and gay male sexuality—and of male and female gender-non-conformity more widely—also serves to remind the rest of us that we know little about homosexuality. I know loads of ‘right-on’ parents who bought their son girl toys or their daughter boy toys. The kids simply blew them off.
This, I’m afraid, is because most children are gender conforming. Gender has biological roots: the stereotyped behaviours it produces—often cultural universals—mean that deviations and tail effects are really going to show. Thing is, gender non-conforming behaviour and the homosexuality and bisexuality that often accompany it also have biological roots, but we don’t know why.
In biology, a spandrel is a phenotypic trait that’s a by-product of some other evolved characteristic, rather than a direct product of adaptive selection. It’s a term borrowed from cathedral architecture, where it refers to something decorative, but which provides no structural support. Maybe some homosexuals don’t mind the idea that we’re just the fancy bit at the corner of an arch, but we seem too common to be an evolutionary spandrel. Why would evolution throw up a group of people of both sexes who are attracted to their own sex? Not exactly going to contribute to reproducing the species, are we?
Gareth Roberts isn’t sure that ‘genderism’ will go away. At the end of Gay Shame, he presents two plausible scenarios. One depicts a world where queer theory and all its works and all its ways has gone down the long slide and all seems well. The other shows what things look like in the event of a genderist win.
And in that world, the grim joke that emerged among staff at the Tavistock has come true. There are no gay people left.
An earlier version of this piece appeared in UK magazine CapX.
Great post, Helen. I covered some of this in an older post I did about Andrew Sullivan and the civil war in the alphabet tribe:
https://morgthorak.substack.com/p/andrew-sullivan-and-the-alphabet
Sullivan and his ilk have been eclipsed by the insanity of the Troon Cult.
The book sounds good. Good review, thanks for sharing. I'm glad at least some trans-critical books are making it through the publishers' pulpers.
Parents who "trans" their kids seem to fall into a few types:
A. Vicious homophobes dressed up as activists. Would secretly like to live in Iran. Prefers a mutilated child wearing an ill-fitting costume forever to a healthy, happy homo.
B. Too-polite prosecco liberal that yes, really thinks kids know better than adults (a common parenting style now IME.) Hates their own parents.
C. Narcissistic social credit seeker who would probably wouldn't mind the kid being gay, but it would be second place to the glory of trans. Usually mums with at least 7 different social media accounts. Says "kiddo" a lot.
Then you've got the ones who see that it's awful and try to fight it, with varying degrees of success. Poor kids these days. I'm glad my sister and I got to be tomboys in the 90s. It was normal.